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Family Law: Friends from a Relationship Having to “Pick Teams” After a Split

Friends acquired during the relationship typically come from one person or the other. A co-worker, a workout partner, and a mom in your child’s class usually enter the relationship through one person. When the relationship ends, the friends will be pulled one way or the other. The person that introduced the friend to the relationship will lay claim to that friend as part of his or her support group. He or she will want that friend on his or her side and against the other person, but “friends” should affirmatively avoid picking teams.

Happily embrace friends, but avoid using them as a sounding-board for hammering the other person, and hope that those friends will remain friends with your post-break-up family. In times where clarity is of the utmost importance, the debate whether a person is your friend or not shouldn’t be in your mind. You have more important things to focus on than people’s biases and inability to remove emotions from rationality.

The sense of loss — loss of a spouse, loss of a partner, loss of the relationship, and loss of marital standing in the community, in the church, and in your employment — is enough. Losing or dividing and conquering friends to get even with your ex will have no positive impact. If you’re looking for a family law lawyer in Toms River New Jersey that can help you throughout the process, contact Horn Law today.